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    You never know the moment......

    I had an amazing experience last night.

    We have a Cub Pack from another part of the country camping behind our Scout Hut. Last night I diid a Campfire for them. The theme for ther camp is 'The Sea' - because they live so far from it many of them had never seen it before! In keeping with the theme, I scattered my programme with Sea Songs alongside the old campfire favourites.

    One of the songs we sung was 'The Skye Boat Song' which I introduced with a bit of the background story of the Jacobite uprising and the Battle of Culloden. It was a smashing night - I sang and played for nigh on two hours! As the fire died, the kids made twists while the leaders barbequed burgers nearby.

    As we settled down to our burgers, a little boy (age 9, I later discovered) who didn't know me from Adam, parked himself on a log in front of my wheelchair and 'pumped' me for more of the Story of Culloden. I told him a little more and he swung the converstion to battles and soldiers and so on ..... and then suddenly, he was telling me about his uncle who had been killed just a few weeks ago in Afghanistan. His Cub Leader, who overheard what was happening, whispered to me 'Let him talk'......... And talk he did for over half an hour and all the emotions of it came out.

    Afterwards, the Leader told me that they and his family had been waiting for him to come to terms with what had happened - which he certainly did last night - as he had been very upset and morose and had been bottling it all up. It seems that what he needed was a friendly 'stranger' to open his soul to!

    I found the whole thing deeply moving. ........ You just never know the moment!

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    ****. sorry to swear, but that is deeply moving and know i wouldn't like to be in his shoes, we've got a guy who helps out the group, who is in the army, at an international army level and he is often away working for the US or UK armies and we have had to try and think each time he goes to afghanistan or iraq how we would tell the kids if anything went wrong.
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    Very moving indeed Jonathan. You were the right person, the right place and at the right time for this young lad last night. Felt very teary just reading about it.

    Sounds like you put on a great camp fire too, so good result all round.
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    It never ceases to amaze me when a child chooses to honour you with their innermost feelings, it can be a happy thing or a sad thing. It always makes you think. Thank you for sharing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Raksha View Post
    It always makes you think.
    It sure does. I lay awake for ages thinking about it. It was breaking dawn before I got to sleep!

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    He must have felt comfortable with you
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    Yeah that's such a touching story.

    Having visited Culloden a few times, albeit a long time ago, its easy to forget how statistics of war effect real lives.

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    Jonathan, how fantastic for you and that little boy. You were there at the right time for him, a stranger who wouldn't judge and he would (probably) never see again. You obviously touched something within him which allowed him to share. Well done on the campfire and well done on the 'moment'. (round of applause)
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    That is such a lovely thing to happen, you must have been in the right place at the right time
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    That is a credit to you that he felt comfortable talking to you. Next time you have a bad scouting night remember this moment and hang onto it thats why i scout.

    you have probably saved this kid hours of psychology visits. you have aevery right to be proud/emotional.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ashbourne_Akela View Post
    Well done on the campfire and well done on the 'moment'. (round of applause)
    I'm taking no credit, Katy. It was just a set of chance cicumstances which came together in the right place at the right time. I hadn't even planned to sing the 'Skye Boat Song' it just sort of popped up as the right song at the right place in proceedings.

    I agree with Richard about Culloden. It is a very strange place indeed and gives me the shivers every time I go there. Why an army of Highland hill fighters should choose to make their last stand on an absolutely flat piece of boggy moorland is beyond me. Prince Charlie was a rotten chooser of venues - Preston Pans is as flat as a pancake as well, but he got away with that one!

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    take all the credit, why then why you, probably because the person you are,

    Yip, all the credit, good for you

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    Thats absolutely fantastic Jonathan - by letting him talk for that half hour will have helped him an awful lot!
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    I can't say any more than has been said already other than that the boy will no doubt remember this weekend and your friendship for the rest of his life.

    Be proud of what you have done for him.

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